As I am writing this I am sitting at the airport, little flower just dropped me off for my fight back home.
Yesterday afternoon while we had some time I booked my flight to come back for Christmas. It is less then 3 weeks away and I will be staying for two full weeks.
This time was a bit different then our other visits, with the Thanksgiving holiday I met her family which went fairly well as I have been invited back for Christmas. The other aspect was that we both worked while I was there.
No not my normal job just I do freelance work and I had a job to do; little flower herself had to work several days leading up to Thanksgiving so this time more then others we were more so like a couple then any other of our visits. While the work I did was from my laptop at her home, each morning she left for work while I stayed home and did my thing.
Over the course of my visit did we play? Of course we did, we did manage to relive some of the holiday stress.
This visit was more then that though, while there I did mundane vanilla things. Her vacuum cleaner had been broken and I fixed that for her. One night I cooked dinner for us, a simple dinner to be sure (Italian sausage w/ peppers and onions and grilled red potatoes) but it came out rather tasty.
I took care of washing the dishes, granted put them in the dishwasher but made sure they were done all the same. This past weekend we also decorated for Christmas, put up the tree, hung the lights and decorations. Drank hot chocolate and ate sugar cookies with the boys while watching Christmas shows.
While we have known for some time that our kinks and D/s style fit very well together this showed a totally different aspect of that dynamic. Through it all we meshed quite well on the day to day, on the vanilla aspect of life. Which is important.
I like to cook so for me it was enjoyable to put together a meal for the two of us. We talked about domestic duties a while back, I am terrible at cleaning bathrooms but can clean a kitchen any day in a heartbeat. She dislikes likes cleaning the kitchen but can whip out a bathroom in not time flat.
(note to self, a fitting punishment would be to make her clean the kitchen!)
While D/s and BDSM is a major part of our lives and who we both are there are still the day to day routines that need to be navigated. We did well, very well as a matter of fact.
We seem to mesh in many ways that compliment one another.
Even in my freelance job she was able to help me over a hurdle. I had been working most of the afternoon on the job and hit a major wall. What should have been a simple process had now turned into a white elephant in the room. I had tried to work through it but ran into another wall.
When she got home after work she saw my frustration and asked what had happened. I explained to her what had been going on.
Later that night she sat down with me and did some searching online and found another suitable option which then allowed me to move forward with the project and I was able to complete it and get paid.
So yes, even outside the D/s we have woven into our lives we seem to function well.
This morning when the alarm clock rang I was awake immediately, little flower hit the snooze button and began to roll back over; she never made it. I pulled her to me and I took her with a savage vengeance. I wanted to leave no doubt in her mind who she belonged to. In the end she has no doubt of it, I left her sore, wrung every orgasm I could out of her, and she will have several bites that should bruise quite nicely over the next day or two.
I also come away from this trip having learned more about myself and our D/s aspect of our relationship. With the hectic pace of the holiday I didn’t keep quite a tight enough rein on some things which in turn allowed her to act out in certain ways. It showed me even though the vanilla rituals of the holidays can be faced paced and things can be out of routine it is then that I need to be even more vigilant in making sure things stay as much on track as possible.
It is a learning and growing process for us both, so far we are making the journey and expanding each others boundaries.
Is it Christmas yet?