I am Daddy Hear me Roar

By | November 14, 2013

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When little flower and I first began talking the D/s aspect of the relationship was not very evident, oh we both knew we were in the lifestyle and we talked about it but we were not actively participating in per se.
We were learning about one another, seeing who each other was, she was hurt and coming out of a relationship. Matter of fact neither one of us had any ideas of entering in a relationship with each other, we were just two people talking, sharing, becoming friends.

I suppose in some ways I did Dom her to a certain extent but knowing she was fragile it was subtle and in little ways.

Over time as we got to know more of one another I began sending her an emails each morning, it was an short email to be sure but each day I would send one. In the email would be a quote, a phrase, or a daily OM that was uplifting, encouraging in nature.

As we began testing the waters of D/s with me monitoring her diet and exercise at one point she asked me if I was a Daddy. I immediately responded back no I wasn’t. Now I will admit that at that time my knowledge of what a Daddy Dom is was very limited.

Several more times after that in our conversations she would come out and ask me if I was a Daddy, again each time I responded with a no.

By that point I will begin to admit that I was getting curious as to what a Daddy Dom really is. My only perception at that time was given to thoughts of age play which did and does nothing for me. So I began a search Google being my good friend and it did not disappoint in the least.

I began reading blogs I found, articles, and even some groups on Fetlife. The more I read, the more I picked up the more I thought maybe I am. Maybe she knows/sees something I didn’t.

We talked some more about what a Daddy is after that and she pointed out that I am very nurturing towards her, also I was very encouraging as well, being willing to stand behind her in fulfilling some of her dreams. The main thing in her eyes that made her feel Daddy was how safe I made her feel. Now it was just recently pointed out to me by someone that whether you be a sadist, Master, top or any other form of Dominant that a sub/slave always has a feeling of safety with their Dom.

This is true, for feeling safe is just one other aspect along with trust, respect, and communication, which is what allows a sub to submit to a Dom.

I was/am strict with her but also fair. A few times I punished her not with spankings but with the one things that hurts her more then any spanking since she is also a masochist at heart. Corner time.

Putting her in the corner for punishment was something she does not like and once in a while I would mix a touch of pain in with it. Kneeling on rice or a coarse grit sandpaper. Once she realized I would do that to her she began paying more attention to what I would ask of her.

On one of her trips down her to see me I had asked something of her that was rather simple yet I stressed the point to her. When she arrived and I asked her about her task and she did not do it. I surprised her when I had her kneel in the corner for 15 minutes. She didn’t think I would do it since we hadn’t seen one another for some time.

The one thing though that cuts even deeper then corner time, are four simple words; “you disappointed me girl”
Those words cut deeper then any knife with her.

I was still having a bit of a problem identifying as Daddy and thinking of her as a “little” or ‘babygirl”. Now I will say that in the course of our talking I began calling her little on;Β  this was not so much that I identified her as a little but more so that I saw her as someone who was not well grown into the lifestyle.

Then one day in our conversation she asked me if I would watch Disney movies with her. I didn’t hesitate and I told her yes. I will freely admit I like Disney movies, I always have. I grew up with them and still watched them now and again.

It was my third visit up to see little flower when we we laying together and I was taking her when she called me Daddy in the heat of the moment. It didn’t freak me out, it didn’t spoil the mood; if anything it released something inside of me. It came boiling to the surface at that moment and I wanted her more then ever. My desire for her began to overflow and I wanted to consume her.

Now predominantly we have a DD/lg relationship and she is my little flower she calls me Daddy on a regular basis although there are times I am Sir. There are nights we sit cuddled on the sofa watching Disney movies and she is in her Hello Kitty pj’s with knee socks and pigtails.

In her day to day life she is in charge, she wears many hats along with many responsibilities. When that day is done and put to the side there are times she lets her little side out. Her little curiosity, her laughter, her bright smile and shining eyes, and yes sometimes even her pouts.

There is no age play involved, she is simply my girl and I am her protector. When she has had a rough day I am there to hold her and offer comfort. I encourage her when she is down, I push her along in realizing her dreams.

Yet I am also more then that, as she put it I have a sadist streak a mile wide and I will put her over my knee in a heart beat and spank her. I have introduced her to crops and floggers, along with rope play.

There are times when we lay together that I am filled with a primalistic lust for her and take her with an animalistic fury. Growling and biting her, leaving her marked with bruises from my bites. She embraces each and every side of me as I embrace and love each and every side of her.

She is a vibrant and intelligent woman, she is a masochist that loves the sting of my hand or flogger on her ass. she growls with her own primal instincts in the heat of the moment. We can be tender and loving as I cradle her in my arms softly stroking her hair while peppering her forehead with kisses.

There are times I whisper sweetly in her ear, other times I growl deeply in her ear.

I have a name for her that is known only to her and I.

Being a Daddy Dom is not about age play, it is many things all rolled up in one. Like any other aspects of BDSM and D/s it is about trust, honor, respect, responsibility, and communication.

She is my babygirl, she is my little one, she is my little flower and I love her.

17 thoughts on “I am Daddy Hear me Roar

  1. Franco

    Wonderful post Sir. I must admit, when some time ago I read about Daddy on one of the blogs, ageplay too sprung to mind. Yes, Google is our friend πŸ™‚

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    1. southerns Post author

      Google certainly is a good friend. This just goes to show that you can’t let misconceptions cloud your vision. While there certainly are people who enjoy age play it is not my thing. But here I was a DD and I didn’t even know it.

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  2. Christina Mandara

    The term ‘Daddy Dom,’ is a much misunderstood one and is different for everyone. It was a lovely post and a nice clarification. There are far too many assumptions in the world…

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    1. southerns Post author

      It is just like any aspect of D/s and BDSM there are many different varieties each different and unique in there own way yet however it is played out it works for each individual.

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  3. NsK

    Sometimes when we open our hearts and minds, we discover things about ourselves that we had previously never seen.
    Such a wonderful post. Thank you for sharing it, Sir. πŸ™‚

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  4. Little Kaninchen

    Disappointing my Sir and him telling me that I did…. Is the worst punishment of all!
    You love your sub and that trumps everything… Your dynamic is made up of everything good….
    Congrats!

    LK

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    1. southerns Post author

      So true, it took you to make me realize that being a Dominant is not just one thing set in stone but many things all blended together.

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  5. Cheeky Minx

    This was so beautiful to read. I feel very honoured to witness, in some small way, the blossoming of your connection (pun intended)…

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  6. kat

    I just started talking to a guy daily on facebook. He is very sweet and sends me up lifting messages and videos every morning. He is ruggedly handsome and older than me, quite a bit. I’ve always liked older, dominant men, not sure why and I go into myself as a little girl and become aroused with men that talk to me as though I am one and also call me “good girl”…it makes me melt and I crave it.

    This man is so kind, caring and sweet with his words and compliments. Then one day about a month after we started talking he messaged me before driving home and said “I’m about to drive. Be quite and don’t be a bad girl” I blushed so hard and felt a stir inside but also felt that I wasn’t ready for what was happening and I didn’t want him to think I was like a whore or something to engage him. I told him not to talk like that because it makes me blush but then added “lol” which of course throws out the window any seriousness to what I just said. He kept going and got home 3 minutes later and continued as I resisted with the only response I knew to say “lol” to his “shhhhh” “be a good girl and lay next to me while I brush your hair across the pillow” my reply “I don’t know what to say to that” him “shhhh that’s what” “now I told you to be quite and put your arm down and lay still, now stop resisting or I’ll have to tie you up”. So my heart is beating a mile a minute and I’m so wanting more but I tell him “I don’t give away my power that quick” then he tells me “good I want to feel your strength and power against me before I conquer you and learn you your place so this won’t happen again.”

    I logged off frightened and really not knowing how to talk like this. Then he messaged me the next morning and said “you ran away, when you’re not scared and you trust me, come to me. I won’t hurt you and I’ll slow down until you’re comfortable continuing” I replied with a funny pic of myself then tried to change the subject, which was working for a while but today he said his nick name for me is “sweet one” and for me to call him GB (grizzly bear), I guess because he’s so much bigger than me. He said “he’s going to learn me all about grizzly bears and the first lesson was that they ROAR. Lesson 2 will be later after the gym. So why I’m here…does this mean there’s a pretty good chance he might be a dominant daddy? = )

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    1. John Brownstone Post author

      Form what you have told me here it does sound like he may well have some very strong Daddy Dom tendencies.
      It sounds like he is giving you space to see if he/that is what you want and to a certain extent again from what you have said here you do but yet you are nervous.
      There is nothing wrong with being nervous about giving someone your submission (power) you shouldn’t hand it over to anyone unless you feel comfortable safe doing so.
      My suggestion to you is to talk to this person (Dom) about your feelings, what you want and expect and what you want in moving forward. if in fact that is what you want to do.
      Communication is key in a D/s, DD/lg relationship.
      Best wishes to you πŸ™‚

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