In the Beginning

By | December 23, 2013

It was December 23, 2012 at 3:51 pm when the email dinged into my inbox. The letter was a simple email to be sure, it came from my Talk to Me page on my blog. It was from someone who had been following my blog and posting comments. We had been going back and forth in the comments since she started reading my blog and my comments on her blog which I had started reading. I knew very little about her other then she had a fabulous sense of humor as it was my Jolly the Shelf Elf posts that she had first began commenting on.

The email didn’t say much just two simple lines;

Comment: I don’t have a question, and I don’t expect a response. I just wanted to say that I have enjoyed your comments on my posts and our “conversations” through comments lately.

Thank you for that.

Of course I responded and from there began a chain of emails back and forth over the course of the next few days.

At some points there were several emails going back and forth at one time, some of then extensively long, others just a few sentences.

She had been hurt, grievously; I knew this from reading her blog. She wanted someone to talk to, she wanted someone that she could ask questions, get inside the mind of a Dom and ask questions. I had no problem and told her so; I’d be happy to help her in anyway I could.

As time went on the emails began to become more personal, deeper questions about one another. I began to become attached. I was going through some things in my life and I wasn’t looking for anyone.
Our emails were about everything under the sun, we talked about our kinks, there were talks about what movies we liked, favorite foods, TV shows, favorite colors, and on and on.
The things I was beginning to feel scared me. At one point I had even told her I couldn’t help her anymore and she would be better served by letting me put her in contact with a Domme I know who was known for mentoring subs.

She wouldn’t hear of it, yet there was still the insistence that this was only platonic.

Then came the question that changed it all. She told me that her old Dom had been helping her lose weight. Tracking her exercise and meals, would I be interested in helping her. We talked about it for some time, what she expected of me, what I was to do for her, the negotiations began. In the end we hashed it out and I began checking her exercise and calories on a daily basis.

This only led to draw me even closer to her. What this did though was open a crack, not one that I tried to tear down with a wrecking ball, not by any means. It was one that I eased into; slowly, cautiously. She was still hurting deeply, the cut ran deep and she was still bleeding openly.

What I did though was begin to Dom her softly, not coming on to her as an Alpha male, but as a soft whisper. It was some time before she realized what I was doing, that in ways I had been guiding her, nurturing her. After what she had been through I knew that if I came on to her all tough and strong she would be headed for the hills and hiding in a heartbeat.
I knew I was taking a risk, that there was no guarantee that anything would really develop between us. As I had gotten to know her what mattered to me more then anything was her happiness; even if that meant she ended up with someone else as long as she was happy.

Our emails soon became chats and text messages, every morning I would send her a daily affirmation, each day I would send her a good morning text. In the evening we would chat till it was time to go to sleep.
Not long ofter that we exchanged phone numbers and the morning text message then became a phone call while I was driving to work.

I was still monitoring her exercise and food after almost a month and I wanted more. Our conversations had grown deeper and longer and my feelings were becoming stronger for this woman I had never met. I nudged, I didn’t push hard, just a nudge, the quiet Dom thing. Soon we were negotiating a very simple D/s contract, I even put it in writing on Google Drive and shared it with her as we worked out the details.

Soon we had it all worked out and I expected certain tasks to be done in the morning when she woke up, she began messaging me or emailing me so I knew she was safely at work. I began picking out her panties for her to wear each day.

Oh to be sure it didn’t go smoothly, each time I nudged there was a gnashing of teeth, She would cry, or write me a in depth email about why we could never work out and her fears of what could never be. I had my heels dug in by this time and rode out the storm each time. There was something about her, something different from anyone else I had met previously.

I think the worst of those was the first time I called her little one. She began crying and started talking about the power of names, she said she liked it yet it scared her. She sent me numerous emails detailing why I shouldn’t call her that. I didn’t use it often but I didn’t stop calling her little one.

Not long after that we began talking about meeting, seeing each other face to face. There were more cracks running through her walls by this time and we had a somewhat tenuous relationship per se. Both of us were wondering if what we had developed online had any kind of spark in person.

I had some time off coming up at the end of March and we decided we would meet then. She lived fairly close all things considered 400 miles from where I live. I had been looking for a reason to do a long distance trip on my new motorcycle and decided this would be a perfect reason to do so.

The date had been set and travel plans had been set, the bike had been put in the shop to be checked out for a long distance trip.
I asked her to look into hotels for me since I didn’t know the area and wanted something reasonable and inexpensive. I told her in the case that we didn’t hit it off at least I had somewhere to be and I could leave if need be.

She said she would take care of it.

Her idea of taking care of it was me staying with her, we had never met! Granted we talked every day; in the morning, at our lunch breaks and then again at night. also there were countless text messages and emails as well, and evening chats.
I called her to task on it, what if we didn’t click, what if I was a psycho killer, so many what if. She wouldn’t back down.

If I was to come up to see her I would be staying with her and that was that.
I told her that in the event that we didn’t get along in real life that I would leave and not bother her.

The morning I was to leave was cold, much colder then the weather man had anticipated. So much colder in fact that I had left at 3:00am in the morning to be ahead of traffic and had to stop and wait for the sun to rise and warm up after only doing 75 miles. After some adjustments to my riding gear to adjust for the colder temps I was able to make some time on the road and by 3:00pm that day I was pulling into her driveway.

Needless to say the chemistry was there, what we began building in the cyber world of blogs, emails, and chat we had something that carried over to real life.

This all began one year ago today, we are still building on what we started on this day when that first email came into my inbox.

Over time, patience, trust, and the building of a mutual respect she has given me the gift of her submission. She is the masochist to my sadist, my babygirl to my Daddy, she is my world.

Most of all….I love her!

 

 

 

41 thoughts on “In the Beginning

  1. hispetitelle

    Happy anniversary! You just never know how you’re going to meet people. My husband and I were phone friends first (no internet or cell phones back then). Life is such an adventure if you choose to embrace it and use good jugdement and wisdom. I have enjoyed ready your blog and Tumblr. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you both!

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  2. Desiree G

    With the quiet support you have shown me over the short course of my blog, I had to smile at how you described yourself in the beginning. Thank you for sharing your story and in doing so sharing even more hope that online friendships can have a profound and lasting impact on our lives. Happy anniversary to you both. Many wishes for continued love and happiness!!

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    1. southerns Post author

      Thank you so much for the well wishes. Meeting someone over the internet is possible after all out is flesh and blood people at each end. As long as there is open communication and honesty.

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  3. Mynx's Sir

    What a great love story- you two are so cute together! Merry Christmas and many, many more friends!

    -Tom & Mynx

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  4. Mynx

    Oh what a special day today for you both! I hope you have special plans to celebrate, especially since your together for two weeks!!! Don’t you wish you had a way to slow down time Sir? But I know you two will enjoy every second you have together. Happy anniversary, and Sir and I wish you both a blessed Christmas, and very Happy New Year!
    Oh and good luck with round two with her parents, though I don’t think you will need it!
    Merry Christmas, Mynx

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    1. southerns Post author

      Thank you, we ate making the must of every second and we had a special date night last night with some extra celebration that lasted well onto the wee hours of the night.

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  5. mel.

    I don’t really know what to say, but I had to comment because this story is just too perfect. Congrats, and best wishes for many, many more years to come!!

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  6. Rose

    I do so enjoy love stories. Yours is incredible.
    Happy anniversary and wishing you both a wonderful visit.
    Rose

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  7. Christina mandara

    What a lovely story. From such tentative beginnings to such a wonderful ending – and look where you are now! Going from strength to strength – have a wonderful holiday season – May it be filled with love, fun and joy ~

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    1. southerns Post author

      I hope your holiday was magical. We have both been growing and exploring having so much fun along the way.

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  8. Anastasia

    Dearest Southern Sir,
    I’m delighted to have you follow my blog site. Wishing You and Yours A Belated Happy Anniversary.
    May You & Yours Celebrate Many More Happy, Healthy, and Prosperous Anniversaries.
    My Heart is Always Touched when I read stories like yours, In The Beginning. I look forward to reading more of your writings.
    Your New Friend, and Follower,
    Anastasia

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    1. southerns Post author

      Thank you Anastasia,
      We are looking forward to many anniversaries.

      I found your blog through Franco Bolli and I have enjoyed what I have read there

      Thank you for the follow back
      SSir

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  9. Wildwestangel

    I’ve read this post several times in the last few months. Here is why. That is the wedding anniversary for Mr. HH and me. It was the most wonderful day of my life. Knowing I share this special day with you and Kayla just makes me so happy. I couldn’t choose a sweeter story or couple to share our day with. Thank you for sharing. Angel

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      1. Wildwestangel

        Yay!!! Fun double celebration!! I’m in. Can we have glitter?

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          1. Wildwestangel

            Whoop!! Mr. HH has one. I’ll find it just in case. πŸ˜‰

            Seriously, we find it a challenge to carve out time at Christmas to just be together and celebrate us and our relationship, but I have realized over the years (as I am the workaholic) that there is nothing more important than him. Therefore, I try to set aside my frenetic Christmas present making and devote myself to him. I think this year it might be a little easier. πŸ™‚ In the last few years, we have started to take pictures of ourselves in front of our Christmas tree to remember our wedding. (Well we weren’t naked then but whatever). That might be a fun picture this year too. πŸ™‚

          2. southerns Post author

            Life can be busy and hectic which make sit even more important to carve that time out for one another. Before you know it time passes and you wonder where it has gone, don’t let that happen.

            Kayla and I talked about the fact that this past Easter will be the last holiday we spend apart πŸ™‚

  10. Mynx's Sir

    You two are really something, and you really have something quite unique. Your dynamic is what living DD/lg D/s M/s is all about- IRL communication, respect and understanding of not only your own roles, by how they interact with one another- just beautiful. πŸ™‚

    When your lives intersected, path’s crossed, connections made, and love felt by each- you two were destined to become one for each other. I say this because of phone conversations with you both, texts, emails and meeting miss Kayla… It IS love and she fits into you “like peas and carrots” (thanks Forest Gump- yah, I know, now I’m stuck with that voice running through my head- lol).

    So the thing you both have left bread crumbs all over bloglandia about is managing your expectations. You two are wondering what it will be like and how well you’ll get along. Like a good many, in person, in real life, full-on living together will be a new adventurous venture together. You know the drill- you both have done so well with it to this point… That is communicate, trust, respect, take time to understand one another’s POV, and mostly- curb your expectations while living in full anticipation of how deep you can let your feelings flow IRL. Be vulnerable, live fully and love passionately!

    Thank you for sharing this with us, Mr Brownstone… πŸ™‚

    Much love to you both…

    -Mynx’s Sir (Tom Wolf)

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