Open Mind

By | August 6, 2013

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Keeping an open mind, what an important thing to do.
I have always thought a closed mind is a stagnant mind.
A good part of what this lifestyle is about pertains to growth.
Not just of the sub but of the Dominant as well.

Just as in any relationship one learns from the other.
For any relationship to grow and flourish there has to be growth on both sides.
A Dom cannot expect to push a sub to grow and reach beyond personal boundaries without doing so himself.
It is an evolution of the bond.

While ultimately the decision lays in the hands of the Dom
it is always a good idea to talk to your sub about things and get their opinion.
Take that into consideration and make your decision.
Listening to their thoughts can give you a different perspective.

On that same vein, I am going to say that I do not know everything there is to know about every kink.
Yes, that is correct, I don’t
There is a lot of different kink out there

When I first started talking to my girl and we were getting to know one another along with discovering our kinks
there were some things I didn’t know about and others she didn’t as well as ones neither one os us knew anything about.

She has fantastic researching and organizing abilities.
I would task her to research a particular subject, write up what she found and then send me her results.
Once that was done her and I would discuss what she had found, hence both of us learned.

There is learning and growing potential in every encounter it is whether you decide to make the most of it.

6 thoughts on “Open Mind

  1. Cheeky Minx

    I think this holds true for every intimate connection, even if the dynamic or “power” (for want of a better term) shifts from one to the other. Without this kind of openness and communication, without a sense of curiosity and a desire to truly explore, there is nothing but stagnation intellectually, physically and sexually from the very beginning.

    I can’t express just how happy I am that you’ve found your girl, who is clearly a most perfect fit and a whiz at kinky reporting!

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    1. SouthernSir

      Well said Minx, regardless of the dynamic communication is key, having an open mind is as well.
      Being will to explore new things with your partner is all part of the growth and learning experience.
      Granted not everything is for everyone but to at least consider it and talk about it. In the end you may find out it is something you like or never try again.
      It fosters togetherness and closeness which is the point.

      She is that and so much more…I have learned a thing or two from her already and I have the feeling there will be more on the horizon.

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  2. Wordwytch

    Very nicely said. And… a small part of me is giggling… Why? Because the sub is doing the research. ๐Ÿ™‚

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