She’s MY slut #BDSM

By | February 3, 2015

Yup, there is it; I said the “S” word. Kayla is My slut, she is My whore.

That’s right she is…no if, and, or buts about it.

Keyword here being My slut, Mine!
Plain and simple; no one else’s.

When we are in a scene or Kayla and I are having brutal primal sex, she is my slut, my whore and I openly call her such.

Any other time beside that she is my babygirl, my submissive, my friend, my partner, and most of all my love.

It took time before I ever uttered one of those words to her. It took a lot of trust that I earned from her, knowing how I really feel about her, knowing how much I care about her, knowing that no matter how rough a scene would be at it’s end I was there to protect her and bring her back down.

There are again misconceptions about the D/s lifestyle; Dominance and submission.
Websters defines Dominance as power and influence over others.
Submission is defined as the action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person.

D/s is the backbone of a TPE relationship or Total Power Exchange. Kayla has imbued me with the power in our relationship, that exists because of the trust, respect, and communication that we have.

The other part of our relationship is the S&M aspect. Kayla is a masochist and I am her sadist. She loves the right mix of pain given to her in the right manner. Threaten her with a spanking and her ass will begin to wiggle in glee. Tell her that the Gentle Giant is being taken out of the toy bag and she will be down on her knees, ass in the air in a heartbeat.

Kayla is also one other thing; a sexual being. She is a woman that is very open about her sexuality and loves to write about it. Through the magic of the Interwebz and her blog she invites people virtually to get a peek into our sex life. I have no problem with that. I encourage her to write and express herself how she feels and I am comfortable with it. There are some Dom’s who want to see what their subs write before they even think about posting it, giving it their stamp of approval. Do I do that with Kayla? No…I tell her to write what she wants from the heart be it good, bad, or ugly. Do I sometimes get a sneak peek; yes I do but not often; for the most part I don’t read her blog posts till it is posted and live.

My point though is that even though she writes about our sex life it is just that, “our” sex life. I am not Kayla’s pimp, she is not for sale. Kayla and I are not in an “open” relationship for anyone to just have their way with her. We are not swingers looking to have as many partners as we can. She is not for sale, use, or on loan. Yes there are some Masters who allow their slave to be used in such a manner but for the most part in a BDSM relationship that is not the case, a Dom’s property is just that, HIS.

Have we discussed the aspect of having others join us? Yes, it is a fantasy of ours but not sexually, we have talked about it more in a dungeon scene. There are at this point and time two people, yes two that I would allow near Kayla as a Top. They are a part of our local community and I know them VERY well. They are vetted by others in the community that I know and in all our interactions they have treated both Kayla and I with the utmost of respect and honor.

Kayla is My slut, she is My whore, she is My submissive…not anyone else’s.
Treat her with the respect that any woman is due.

20 thoughts on “She’s MY slut #BDSM

  1. Mysirsmynx

    I Admire your journey together, the two of you are a wonderful example for the rest of us! Much love to you both!
    Mynx

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  2. freedomhunter

    Sounds like true love and respect. And following your hearts. Thanks for sharing yourselves with all us us.

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  3. Kayla Lords

    Thank you, Daddy, for “marking” your territory so well. 😀

    I know it’s hard for someone out of the lifestyle to understand our relationship and our life when we only present a small portion of it, but some attitudes don’t even fall under basic decency. You helped me handle a strange situation, and proved once again that you’ll always take care of me. Just another reason why I love you so damn much. ((HUGS))

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    1. John Brownstone Post author

      I will always have your back and sadly it is a misconception of many people about BDSM and D/s in general. They think it is a sexual free for all when it isn’t.

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  4. Vile

    This is truly awesome John and again my respect for you grows. I hope one day soon we can sit down to a nice glass of Brandy and just talk..

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    1. John Brownstone Post author

      Thank you Vile, I would certainly like that. Maybe once the dust settles from the thing Kayla and I are putting into motion settles a bit we can do just that.

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  5. Fbian

    My goodness how you see things SO CLEARLY !! ,,, a fine example which I simply wish to mirror in my (our… Mine and Sharron ) very new journey

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  6. Lulu Bell

    I follow you and Kayla and love having both perspectives but I find myself wanting to know more. Things that are not my right to know like is their an age difference between you, etc. I love your posts because the authority (dominance) shines thru even in your writing.

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    1. John Brownstone Post author

      Hi Lulu Bell, thanks for following and commenting. Hang out you never know what you might find out about us. As for our age, yes there is an age difference. I’m 18 years her senior.

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      1. Lulu Bell

        Thanks for the reply and the tidbit of info! I find the dynamics of your relationship fascinating! I have been married for 20+ years and am just beginning to discover new things!

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        1. John Brownstone Post author

          Not at all Lulu Bell, there are many different facets to this lifestyle and while all of them may be different, none of them are wrong. Feel free to ask Kayla or I a question anytime.

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  7. hispetitelle

    I can speak from experience that fantasy is far different from reality. We were on the precipice of having a fantasy become a reality and it was like a huge slap across the face (and not in a good way). Coach reacted in a way I’d never seen and pulled me back so freaking fast. I am HIS! PERIOD!

    The two of you have been so wonderful sharing your lives. I always get food for thought and insight.

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    1. John Brownstone Post author

      Some fantasies are best left that way. In the way it sounds from what you say it wasn’t meant to be and better to find out sooner than later.

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