An email

By | April 28, 2013

A number of years ago, just about 3 to be exact I was a regular on a writing site.
It was an interesting place as it was an amalgamation of different people from around the world, different walks of life, different beliefs, and even different fetishes.
The site allowed for many various interactions, through chat, story comments, and messaging.
I think what I liked about it was at that time even with all the different people there everyone; for the most part got along.

Things were a bit different in my life at that time, I wrote and I wrote a lot.
After some time there was a woman that would comment on my writing, they were open, honest, and oft times insightful comments.
I began following her writing and found I liked it.

Not long afterwards we began messaging and chatting, we found that we both had certain things in common, kink being one of them.

A bond began to grow between us. Not a bad thing.

As the bond grew deeper she expressed a desire to submit to me.
Now she lived half way across the country and we talked quite in depth about how this would work.
Well things did progress and we were D/s for a little more then a year and a half.

I knew she was going through a very tough time in her life.
In that time we did meet 3 times in RL and spent several days together.

After time I noticed a shift, she began pulling away, having less and less time.
I pushed her for a explanation but never really got one.
Then the day came I heard from her no more.

Time passed and yes I thought of her on and off.
I decided at one point a few months back to reach out to her as I often wondered how she is.Much to my surprise I did get a response.

She told me what had been going on in her life, the things that had happened since and where she was at now.
What touched me most of all though was this, a small exert of her email:

When we met; I was looking for a friend. I wasn’t particularly interested in whether the person was a man or a woman — I just wanted someone to talk to. It started off simple enough — we had some common interests — shared some common desires. I never really expected it to be anything more than a friendship, but the more I talked to you the more I liked you.You didn’t care if I had strange desires because you shared those desires too. You gave me what I needed at the time. You helped me to grow and become stronger than I had been in years. You offered me your heart, your strength, your wisedom. I just hope I offered something in return. It was only through what I learned while I was with you that helped me pull through what was going on in my life at the time.

I’ve heard from her once or twice more since, she has a busy full life these days, the job of her dreams and a new relationship.
In fact next month she is getting married.
I’m happy for her, glad she has found her happiness and her place.

We don’t always get to hear that we made a difference in people’s lives.
With the Internet playing such a big part in peoples lives today people connect on so many different levels.
There are some who say that connections made in the cyber world aren’t real.
That the miles and the distance makes it impossible to have true feelings and connections.
This is true to a certain extent, it doesn’t replace a real hug, a touch, or a look.
But it can make a difference.

19 thoughts on “An email

  1. Butterfly Joy

    Cyber world is one kind of reality. Sometimes even more real than the outside world. It all depends on the individuals. My humble opinion. I love your post.

    1. SouthernSir

      Thank you Joy. I believe like you that the cyber world can be as real as we make it. Many of the preconceptions that we look at things and people with are not evident in the cyber world. This allows for a more meaningful emotional connection to someone. I have met a number of bloggers that I have communicated with over the years and what had been developed here carried over to RL.

  2. Twisted Angel

    Ok so I finally found a way to follow your blog.. thank goodness.. HA I was your first stalker .. err ummm follower through bloglovin. It is always nice to feel like we have touched someone, helped someone, been the difference for them. I am glad you got your closure and she let you know exactly what you meant to her..

    1. SouthernSir

      WElcome Twisted Angel, thanks for coming out of the shadows. YEs, it was nice to know that in some way I did make a difference in her life.

  3. Blue

    S.Sir. I am back checking out my favorite people on line and I saw your post and thought it was beautiful and you should feel very proud of yourself. It shows an amazing man and it would be an honor for any Submissive to serve you for her words and life experiences with you reveal your heart. Thanks for sharing this and I hope my experience with my Dominant is just as beautiful for I will be meeting him for the first time in 2 weeks on the opposite side of the country where I live. Going way out of my comfort zone and no safety words for my heart, but I also trust my heart and its leading me straight to him. He is my beacon in the darkness and he is calling me finally home to him. Hope his heart is as true as mine. Blind faith can be very powerful and its all we have right now.

    1. SouthernSir

      Thank you so much for the kind words Blue, glad you decided to pop in. Best of luck to you when you meet your Dom. I’ll be sending you good thoughts.

  4. Cheeky Minx

    I’ve always found the issue of the real interesting – and one that constantly plucks at me when I connect with people in this arena. On reading your post, I wonder if people questioned connection in the same way when they were limited to written correspondence. In the past, this was often the way relationships were formed, solidified, the way the intricacies of connection were expressed and teased out. Perhaps it is a sense of immediacy that forces that questioning in the here and now. Perhaps it is the anonymity these networks allow us. Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps…

    As I see it and feel it (both in your relationship with this woman and my own experience), chemistry is chemistry, experienced just as strongly on the page as it is in person. And to know you have materially changed the life of another in such a positive way… Well, you can’t possible ask for anything better.

    Gorgeous post, SSir…

    ~Minx x

    1. SouthernSir

      Minx, as always your words are profound and well thought. Like you say in the past correspondence was through letters, while this is a fairly new medium the thought is the same, at least how I look at it. While a written letter is meant for one person, here it can reach out to many.
      Words whether written on paper or on an electronic medium are still extensions of the person writing them. There are true feelings, emotions, and desires behind them.

      You are right chemistry is chemistry and oft times it touches someone on a deep level.

      Thank You

  5. hotlilmess

    A true compliment to you. Also a reminder that often times we never truly know how our interactions or writings or expressions truly influence another. Wonderful post.

    1. SouthernSir

      Thank you so much for your comment, there are so many ways in which we can touch and impact peoples lives.

  6. loneyheart

    further proof that people come in and out of our lives for many reasons. We need them as much as they need us in the moment. But moments are not ment to last. So we enjoy the moments until someone shows up who shows us deeper parts of our soul that only live with their touch

    1. SouthernSir

      True, people do come into our lives for a reason…but when one does meet that speacial person it helps us to appreciate them even more.


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