I want to start out right from the beginning and tell you what being her Daddy is not: I have absolutely no interest whatsoever in age play. She does not wear diapers, she does not pretend to be a little girl, there is no, I repeat NO interest in pedophilia by either of us in any way shape or form.
Whatever you call her babygirl, little one, kitten, princess, or any other name you may have for her there is a lot that goes with a DD/lg relationship.
When I first met Kayla we worked on being friends, one thing I noticed about her and this came from her having to be responsible from a young age was that she didn’t laugh much; she didn’t play much.
Now I will say she was also bearing many responsibilities and even though she didn’t think so at the time she was handling them all quite well; family, work, children, and her home.
Now as I got to know her and this is something that happens quite a bit in vanilla relationships is that people want to change you. If you want to change them then you don’t love them for who they are. So many times I hear someone say, “I want to tame him or her.”
I want nothing to do with that, love them for their wild side if that is not what you want then look for someone who doesn’t have that wild side. Love them for who they are!
I digress though!
What I do bring to the table, as her Daddy is I give her the opportunity to let go of that responsibility for a time. I bear the load for her. I allow her to let her guard down.
When she is in her “little” side she is playful, she laughs and smiles. There is a certain sparkle in her eyes that isn’t there when she is taking care of her daily duties.
One time during one of my visit’s we were laying in bed together and I rolled over and pinned her underneath me, I began tickling her. Her laughter was like music to my ears. Then she began fighting back and she soon was tickling me back. We carried on like this for some time till we were both exhausted and out of breathe.
She let her hair down, she laughed and most of all she had fun. We both did!
When she has had a rough day I am there to welcome her with open arms, letting her snuggle up in my lap while I softly stroke her hair and holding her.
It is times like these that I will tell her to go put on her Hello Kitty PJ’s and put her hair up in pigtails. For her that is a sign, a signal that it will be all right, that she can let go of it all. Take down the walls that she faces the rest of the world with. There is no need for pretensions with me.
Yes, there are times we curl up on the sofa and watch Disney movies. It is just one more way to allow her to let go and open up.
Also I am there to watch out for her as best I can. There are times she doesn’t get enough sleep as she is always on the go. While I haven’t had to give her a set bedtime if things to get off track and she is to tired I will make sure she gets to bed earlier. I make sure she takes certain vitamins that will help with her stressful job and that she picks good food choices.
Yes, she also has Mr. Teddy as well. It was on my second visit to see her that I found Mr. Teddy. Since I couldn’t be there all the time with her I decided to find Mr. Teddy. We went on a shopping hunt, we hit 3 or 4 stores till I found him. Once we took Mr. Teddy home we had a long talk him and I. See it is his job to look out for her when I can’t be there. He is there for her to hug, for her to snuggle next to, and there for her to talk to in those moments I can’t.
Another thing that goes on in our dynamic is that I see her potential better then she does herself. It goes with the old adage that we are our own worst critics. I see what she is capable of and if guided what she can achieve.
I nurture that! I guide her and offer her support to take the steps to reach her full potential. One day when we were talking on the phone she talked of how she wanted to write. She felt like she had a story to tell. I told her that I would support her and help her in anyway I could. She now has three self-published books.
See what it comes down to is I don’t want a grown woman that acts like a little child. I want a woman that feels safe enough with me to be able to let her hair down when she needs to and open up. I want a woman who isn’t afraid to let her inner child out to play and have fun at times. I want a woman who isn’t afraid to show me her vulnerable side and know that it is safe in my hands.
When we go to bed at night I want that LOWE; Lusty, Orgasmic, Wanton, Eager, Slut there next to me. It is because she knows that she is cherished for who she is that not only are her weakness’s safe with me but so are her dreams that she can then be that open eager woman with me.
So I’m grinning like an idiot, smiling with what I imagine is that “sparkle” you mentioned, AND blushing. I don’t know why I’m blushing, I just am.
I love you, Daddy. I love being your babygirl. I love feeling safe enough to be vulnerable. You’re the best Daddy, and I don’t think I’ll ever be able to give you half as much as you’ve given me, but I will keep trying for as long as you’ll let me.
((HUGS))
you give me way more then you think you do babygirl.
Beautiful southern Sir, thank you… (I’m still not a little though :)….)
Yeah right.
Sigh…. I think you need to take this up with my Sir….wait… are you on some sort of evangalistic compaign? yes… that must be it, you and Kayla are out to convert all subs to lg’s….. back, back I say!!!
Oh and ladies, if you are so inclined feel free to use the link the the chat room on the right 😉
thank you Sir, I may head there in a bit…
Can I ask what a chat room is without having my IQ maligned?
it is where one can chat in more real time the waiting on post comments. If you look on the sidebar you will see a link called Southern Chat
Wild I’ll join you there in a sec
never say never
Thank you for this post. I wish more people understood. I’ve had all kinds of nasty things said to me because of the dynamic I choose. Many of them hurtful, even when I know I shouldn’t let them get to me.
You two are obviously good together and for each other. That’s the bottom line regardless of what titles we use, isn’t it?
🙂
Phoenix, that is it exactly, how well the two of you fit together and mesh. Sometimes titles don’t fit but even that doesn’t matter.
If it works for you, go with it and enjoy it.
Crap!! Kayla you and LPB might have called me. It’s not Disney for me. It’s muppets, and sparkles, pink stuff, and looking like the girl next door with a pornstar body. Sir could have been describing me. Crap crap crap. At least I don’t like Hello kitty. I need to ponder this. Would Mr. HH always calling me his dirty little girl factor in to this at all?
I have on occasion called Kayla my naughty little vixen.
Gulp. That’s awfully similar too.
I knew you were a little…. called it.
Damn you LBP. I’m sending you the HK picture when I finish that project just to torment you.
And being little better not be a height jab.
Nope… but at 5’9″ I would make a very strange “little” 🙂
Only if your DD was smaller than you would I make fun of that.
DMW is 6ft tall.
Well then you could still be a little.
Great post Sir… And shows what a beautiful DD/lg relationship looks like! Good thing you added the chat room feature huh?
Hugs, Mynx
Many people are confused as to what a DD/lg relationship is like.
As for the chat, yes it has turned out to be useful.
Sir, I suggested Mr. HH read your post tonight and he started chuckling. He said it could be us…..sigh. Talk of cheerleader costumes and naughty schoolgirl outfits proceeded. 😉 thanks for the way you made it so clear.
A
You are so welcome WWA, nothing wrong with a little role playing, keeps things fun.
Beautifully said. I think there’s a lot of misunderstanding in the DD/lg relationship and people have to understand that just like any relationship, it isn’t a cardboard cut out… it’s different for everyone.
No part of this lifestyle is set in stone, it is what each and everyone of makes of it.
And as it turns out, Sir, one of the things he really appreciates about it. We get to keep being us with an extra layer of intimacy.
SS, as always you have written beautifully, and explained the dynamics of D/s relationships.
Rose
Thank you Rose
Really appreciate this post. I definitely have little tendencies…but I’m not sure its an exact fit. Though…like you said, its different and unique for everyone…thats the beauty of it!
Oh Cailin, another link in our chain. Lol!
I know!!! Its crazy!
We each are unique in how we fit in this wonderful life, it is not right or wrong but what works for each of us.
This is truly a beautiful post, written with tenderness and love and erotic connection. Thank you for making me smile, SSir…
Always good to hear I have made you smile Minx 🙂
Just perfect on every point. I hope that this can be sustained over a very long period
As long as both parties are open to change and growth, continue with open communication, looking forward to a long happy relationship.
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I loved this. Very well written and explains a lot. Sometimes, I think… Oh well, we’ll let things grow the way they are supposed to 😉
That is the way our relationship grew, neither one of us was looking for for it to be what it is it flourished on its own.
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