Still Alive and Kicking

By | April 17, 2014

It’s been a while I know, so much has been happening. In some ways time has been moving at lightening speed and others it seems time has been crawling.

My main focus is and has been to have Kayla here by June, I’ve not wavered in that and each day I do everything I can to move in that direction. At this point the main focus is finding a suitable place for all of us to call home. That to me means a safe comfortable place, good schools for the boys, and a much shorter commute to work for me. Currently I have a 30 mile commute one way, 60 mile round trip. I am SO ready for that to be shorter.

With all the things we have set out to do there were things that I thought were going to be mountains to move, they turned out to be the things that went the smoothest.

What has turned out to be the most difficult is finding a place to live. I have been scouring the Internet and found what I thought to be a fabulous resource for locating something. Every time I found something though is was already taken by a day or two.

In that I came across a realtor that has started working with me.

Through him I have found several places that are both nice and affordable.
So one would think that all is well.

Not so much.
It seems there is one more hurdle that has popped up in this search.

Of all things it is my motorcycle.

I have been looking at condo’s/townhomes as my train of thought is I don’t want to do yard work anymore. I’ve done it for years and enough is enough.

The challenge has become finding a condo/townhome that allows motorcycles. I love to ride, it is a release for me. Kayla has joined me on a few rides now and we wish to continue that. Not to mention the price of gas escalating and my bike gets 59 mpg.
It seems most Associations are not motorbike friendly, so the search continues.

As a good friend told me today “Nothing is rewarded like persistance!” so I keep moving forward because giving up isn’t an option.

Now all of what I have been doing is not just centered around a search for where to set our home stone.

Early on in our relationship Kayla talked about how she desired discipline in a relationship. Even though we’ve been in a LDR for the better part of a year I have given her a good bit of that as much as one can with 440 miles between us.

Moving forward with being together 24/7 and only a few feet between us I have begun drafting a set of rules and protocols that will be in place when we are together, we have already talked about some of them and some we haven’t . I am still putting this all together. Once we are under the same roof it will be delved into deeper.

Now in all fairness I will not expect her to follow them to a T right out of the box, there will be an adjustment time which I expect nor will I expect her to remember each and every one of them. Bu she will have a drafted set that she can refer back to at any time.

Hopefully this resolves itself soon, I miss being here, I miss writing.
There is so much running through my mind of late that I want to put to words but time, time is fleeting these days.

27 thoughts on “Still Alive and Kicking

  1. Franco Bolli

    Dear Sir,
    Indeed persistence is a very import quality as almost nothing can be obtained without it. I was astonished to read about the motorcycle unfriendly stuff though.
    It was great reading you again, it has been, indeed, a while now. Wish you a great Easter weekend!

    1. southerns Post author

      Hopefully soon this part will be taken care of and things will once more return to normal.
      It seems there are a great number of cycle unfriendly places. I don’t know why but there are plenty of them out there.
      Ahh well, I wouldn’t want to live there anyway.

      Have a Happy Easter as well.

  2. Mynx's Sir

    Okay, please allow me to purge this from my brain- Patience and persistence pays- AND -proper prior planning prevents piss-poor predicaments… πŸ™‚

    While we have all missed your ponderings, that which you’re engaged in has precedence. You don’t need me to say that, but I offer it as encouragement because I know how challenging it is to find a suitable home for all that you’re about to undergo. Don’t settle for something that isn’t right for, miss Kayla and the boys. Push the agent harder and stay the course my friend. We’re all supporting from afar and hope this search comes to pass quickly.

    As for your D/s – this too will naturally sort itself out. Having spent time, albeit brief, with miss Kayla, I’ve learned she’s a good girl who loves and adores you. You’re right, there may be a few bumps and mis-steps along the way- but both of your hearts are in the right place. I suspect that even after the new car smell of your 24/7 has worn away, the two of you will undoubtedly uncover / discover new adventures to replace the faded.

    Stay tenacious JB- let us know how we can help?! πŸ™‚

    -Mynx’s Sir (Tom Wolf)

    1. southerns Post author

      WOW Mr. Wolf that is a plethora P’s to pontificate with precision.
      But like anything else I rise to the occasion.

      I could have settled long before this with some of what I have come across. This agent I have working with me seems to be on the ball and is in touch with me at that very least once a day to touch base.

      There is no doubt that very soon something will jump out and I will just know it is the one.

      Thanks for the offer of assistance it is greatly appreciated.

  3. Kayla Lords

    I’m feeling much more hopeful about our housing situation. I have no doubt it will work out just fine. ((HUGS))

  4. Wildwestangel

    I would never have guessed a motorcycle would be a stopping point for home rental! That seems crazy to me. I have missed your posts and hope you continue to even just tell us about the mundane. You and Kayla are my DD/lg model and I need to hear from you both. πŸ™‚ I know that this will be a huge adjustment, because I can remember our first months after our LDR of 4 years became a marriage and instant parethood for Mr. HH. It was exhilarating and frightening at the same time for me. He probably never had a doubt. He’s like that. Lol! However, a unified focus on the future made it all work. The bumps along the way are memories we cherish now. When things went to hell, we just looked at each other and one of us would say, “someday this will be funny.” Love you guys!

    1. southerns Post author

      Sadly this is and still is to some part the retirement capital so that mentality still has a foot hold here.

      It will be an adjustment for all of us but with the communication we have fostered; while it won’t eliminate all problems it will certainly soften them to say the least.

      Be warned though once we are together that we will most like both have quite a bit of fodder to be writing about, you may even grow tired of us πŸ˜‰

  5. Beauty

    I don’t know if this is possible, but could you buy your home instead? I know doing the yard is a pain in the ass, but eventually the boys will be bigger and more able to do that for you. That might cut down on people saying no to your motorcycle.

    We bought our house two years ago. We have to worry about snow removal ($1200 a season in Wisconsin) and yard work (service sub). We don’t have to worry about noise from the dungeon (sound proofed window) and where we’ll put friends if more than 30 pop over for a summer party.

    1. southerns Post author

      That is something we have discussed and it is on the table, there are a couple reasons why we aren’t doing so at this moment.

      We have talked that in the next two years tops we will be looking to purchase a home. Even with the yard work etc, I would rather own then rent.

  6. Christina Mandara

    Persistence is alwaysrewarded in the end! Hope you find somewhere that is motorbike friendly soon – I would have thought they’d have been more popular than cars… they take up a lot less space and guzzle less gas! Sending motorbike friendly vibes across the ocean πŸ˜‰

    1. southerns Post author

      I wish that were the case, sad to say but most Americans still like their over sized SUV’s and monster trucks.
      For me I much prefer my gas sipping low cost cycle.

      Thanks for the MB friendly vibes πŸ™‚

  7. Cheeky Minx

    It makes me smile that each day is bringing you closer – quite literally! But how odd about not allowing motorbikes. I can’t say I’ve ever heard of anything of the like here.

    Crossing my fingers and toes for you both and the perfect abode…

    1. southerns Post author

      I have a VERY good prospect to go look at after work today. So hopefully it will be the one.

  8. Mynx

    I have so missed your posts Sir, but understand completely your absence! After meeting Kayla, I feel very connected to both of you, and your sense of urgency to bring your two hearts and households together. I hope your search narrows, and the perfect place reveals itself to you.
    One thing you might think to ask is the development where our beach cottage is doesn’t allow motorcycles at all either, but will allow you to own and park one on the property, so you must shut down the motor and walk it in. Not sure how big and heavy your bike is but this might open up a few possibilities for you. Wishing the best for you both!

    Love and hugs, Mynx

    1. southerns Post author

      I have looked at a couple places like you mention, my bike is to heavy to walk in like that. I even threw out the suggestion at a couple of these places now that if that is the case it would be nice if they could provide secure parking for motorcycles near the entrance.

      It will be nice once we are together and this portion is behind us, then we can truly begin functioning as a team.

  9. Wordwytch

    I figured that you were busy trying to get everything ready for the Big Adventure. πŸ™‚ Good wishes and blessings for everything. Good luck with your rules too. I look forward to hearing how that goes as well.

    Lots of love, hugs and good energy!

    1. southerns Post author

      We are getting there, moving forward one step at a time keeping the big goal in sight

  10. Marian Green

    We’ve certainly missed you! Just a thought… what about renting space in a nearby storage locker for the bike? I’m sure you have it all under control, but sometimes it’s nice to not have to limit options because of one factor.

    This is so exciting to read about… A happy beginning for two of my fav bloggers.


    1. southerns Post author

      It does seem limiting agree but for the next two months at the very least the motorcycle is my only mode of transportation.
      While the area I live in is beautiful and has a lot to offer, there are SO many things to contend with like the motorcycle and over 55 communities.


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