Since I have moved and am now self hosting my blog I thought it is a good time to update my About page.

I have been growing in the lifestyle, living, learning, and experiencing many thing with My little flower. Through it all I have started learning who I am and where I fit in this wonderful lifestyle. From partaking in local lifestyle events, various Munches, and even recently playing at a local Dungeon.

Through my journey with little flower I have learned that I have very strong Daddy tendencies in addition to having a sadistic streak a mile wide as she puts it. I also am a sensual Dom as I love taking control of her sexually. This I do in many ways; I love leaving her limp as a wet noodle and I completely control her orgasms, she isn’t allowed to have one with out my permission or begging very politely for one.

With all the misconceptions brought about in the lifestyle by the book 50 Shades I am a firm believer in being educated and understanding what one is getting into in regards to the BDSM lifestyle. Between the book and the images portrayed in Internet porn there is a need for people to truly understand what the lifestyle is and the people who are a part of it.

I am somewhat of a different Dom then what most would consider, passion is a big part of who I am and what I believe.
Many might say how could a Dom be passionate, I say how could the two not walk hand in hand.
While I do like my kink I also consider Myself to be a pleasurist; there are so many joys to be discovered between two people (or more) having an open mind and a exploring nature is who I am.


19 thoughts on “About

  1. peejaybayliss

    Nice to hear. The aspect of passion can not be underestimated in such a position. Its a basic primal instinct, engrained in the male species. Some of us simply elect not to allow it out.

    I wear my heart on my sleeve.

    1. SouthernSir

      I find it sad those who do not allow their passionate side to show, they do not know what they are missing out on. Thanks for stopping by.

  2. Kayla Lords

    I have known a Dominant the way you describe yourself…he referred to himself as a sensual Dominant…but there was definitely a lot of passion…

  3. ~T~

    You say you are a somewhat different Dom.

    I would say that you are not one of the clones. Each relationship should be as unique and special as its participants, and I know you have something special.


    1. southerns Post author

      Thank you, that is something I have been finding out on this journey, that each relationship in this world of D/s is as unique as a diamond.

  4. petal7092

    My Sir is almost like you except He is no sadist and allows me to cum as many times as i wish. Sir has helped me overcome things that have been really traumatic in my life and He has helped me realise that i am beautiful the way i am.
    Anyways, i just wanted to stop by and say hello and that i enjoy your blog.

    1. John Brownstone Post author

      Welcome petal and thank you for stopping by.

      It is amazing how one can blossom under the right Dom/Sir. Sounds like you have someone wonderful in your life.

  5. AngelsDaddy

    I’ve been looking all over for tips and advice on being a Dom/Daddy based on your about you’ve probably come closest to describing me in describing yourself. I’ll be looking forward to more posts and stories.

    1. John Brownstone Post author

      Thanks for stopping by and reading. I’m sure you’ll find some helpful info and insight here. I don’t do much writing here these days as most of my energy goes into the LovingBDSM podcast and YouTube channel.

  6. Sheashine

    Hi Southern Sir,

    Thank you very much for posting this blog. As a sub, I have actually found it difficult to find Doms that are willing to be both passionate and fulfill my desire to be a sub. I do my best to be as flexible as I can to meet their sadistic desires and kinks, but at times even my best attempts fall short. I end up feeling discouraged and walking away feeling unfulfilled. At times it feels like the expectation is to be one extreme or the other (only being a recipient of pain or almost an entirely vanilla relationship). Would you have any suggestions on how best to communicate this when I am looking for a Dom? Or how do even search for a Dom with these types of qualities?

    1. John Brownstone Post author

      It sounds like your expectations at times are not being met. As part of the negotiation process it is important for you to express what you want to get out of doing a scene. Many folks thing that it is the Dom/Top’s desire that are to be met but it is just as important for the sub/bottoms desires to be met. While it can be difficult communicating your needs are justified and no less important.


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