Yup, there is it; I said the “S” word. Kayla is My slut, she is My whore.
That’s right she is…no if, and, or buts about it.
Keyword here being My slut, Mine!
Plain and simple; no one else’s.
When we are in a scene or Kayla and I are having brutal primal sex, she is my slut, my whore and I openly call her such.
Any other time beside that she is my babygirl, my submissive, my friend, my partner, and most of all my love.
It took time before I ever uttered one of those words to her. It took a lot of trust that I earned from her, knowing how I really feel about her, knowing how much I care about her, knowing that no matter how rough a scene would be at it’s end I was there to protect her and bring her back down.
There are again misconceptions about the D/s lifestyle; Dominance and submission.
Websters defines Dominance as power and influence over others.
Submission is defined as the action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person.
D/s is the backbone of a TPE relationship or Total Power Exchange. Kayla has imbued me with the power in our relationship, that exists because of the trust, respect, and communication that we have.
The other part of our relationship is the S&M aspect. Kayla is a masochist and I am her sadist. She loves the right mix of pain given to her in the right manner. Threaten her with a spanking and her ass will begin to wiggle in glee. Tell her that the Gentle Giant is being taken out of the toy bag and she will be down on her knees, ass in the air in a heartbeat.
Kayla is also one other thing; a sexual being. She is a woman that is very open about her sexuality and loves to write about it. Through the magic of the Interwebz and her blog she invites people virtually to get a peek into our sex life. I have no problem with that. I encourage her to write and express herself how she feels and I am comfortable with it. There are some Dom’s who want to see what their subs write before they even think about posting it, giving it their stamp of approval. Do I do that with Kayla? No…I tell her to write what she wants from the heart be it good, bad, or ugly. Do I sometimes get a sneak peek; yes I do but not often; for the most part I don’t read her blog posts till it is posted and live.
My point though is that even though she writes about our sex life it is just that, “our” sex life. I am not Kayla’s pimp, she is not for sale. Kayla and I are not in an “open” relationship for anyone to just have their way with her. We are not swingers looking to have as many partners as we can. She is not for sale, use, or on loan. Yes there are some Masters who allow their slave to be used in such a manner but for the most part in a BDSM relationship that is not the case, a Dom’s property is just that, HIS.
Have we discussed the aspect of having others join us? Yes, it is a fantasy of ours but not sexually, we have talked about it more in a dungeon scene. There are at this point and time two people, yes two that I would allow near Kayla as a Top. They are a part of our local community and I know them VERY well. They are vetted by others in the community that I know and in all our interactions they have treated both Kayla and I with the utmost of respect and honor.
Kayla is My slut, she is My whore, she is My submissive…not anyone else’s.
Treat her with the respect that any woman is due.