I was talking to a friend the other day and the topic of “safe words” came up and I was asked if I use one
The answer is a resounding YES!
Safe, Sane, and Consensual…always!
Having a safe word in place is important.
Never and I mean never play without having a safe word in place.
If a Dom were to ask you to play and didn’t want a safe word, walk away!
Trust plays a big factor in using a safe word, if a Dom continues even after a safe word is invoked that could lead to serious trouble.
Always know who you are playing with and that you trust and respect them to do the same for you.
The same goes with drinking or even drugs. A big no no when engaging in any kind of scene.
Being under the influence impedes judgment and that can lead to some serious consequences.
When in any kind of scene one must be sharp and on alert for any sign of trouble.
The Dom is in control during a scene and has to be aware of what is going on.
If anything is out of the norm he must be able to pick upon that.
The same goes if either one is sick or not feeling well.
Pain that is usually pleasurable can be picked up by the body in different ways if one is sick.
Just like with your knee it is important to know about things like that before playing.
If something that is not known before hand there is the possibility of further injury .
Before hand always talk about your expectations of what will be occurring.
While not always the minutest details may be talked about, some surprise is good.
Knowing what is in store can help alleviate anxiety and fear.
As a couple plays together more and more and they know each other then it may not be as important but is still good to do.
Always play it safe.