BDSM Test

Bondage Giver (100%)

Bondage givers like to tie up and restrain their partner(s), using rope and/or other attributes (chains, cuffs, speaders…). Whether for sexual enhancement, for art or just for fun, they enjoy having their partners completely at their mercy.

Bondage givers typically pair up with bondage receivers.

This is really no surprise at all. What would have been more surprising was if it had been any lower or something else. It is no surprise I love rope, one of the first gift’s I gave Kayla after we became a couple was a play collar w/ matching ankle & wrist cuffs.

Dominant (100%)

Dominants like to be in charge. Some like to have their partner obey them without questioning, others like some resistance while taking it their way. Some are dominant only in the bedroom, others are dominant throughout their daily life as well (usually with limitations). Unlike the top roles (giving paina/bondage/degradation), being dominant is more about who decides what happens (and takes the responsibility that comes with it) than about the contents of what happens.

Dominants typically pair up with submissives.

Again not to much out of the ordinary for me. Yes, there have been times I have wondered what it must be like to give up control, wondered if I could even try being a switch. Then the thought is gone when I see my babygirl look at me with her beautiful brown eyes. Even at work I try to take control, sometimes subtly and sometimes not so. So yeah, this is me.

Daddy/Mommy (91%)

Daddies/Mommies take on a caretaker role in the relationship, being a guide as much a dominant. Daddies/Mommies dominate their little treasure submissives with an iron fist in a velvet glove: much cuddly and affectionate on the outside, while being as sturdy and hard on the inside as other dominants. Using subtle psychological mechanisms rather than brute power, they nurture their littles into obedience.

Daddies/Mommies typically pair up with girls/boys.

When I was first asked the question: “Are you a Daddy?” I certainly didn’t think so. Partially due to the fact that the first thing that came to my mind was age play. Which is something I am not into at all. As I began exploring this w/ Kayla I began to realize there was so much more to DD/lg then that. I am and always have been a nurturer and with Kayla it was almost instinctual that I took up that role with her. While there are rules and structure in our relationship there is also a good deal of laughter and playfulness. 

Master/Mistress (91%)

Masters/Mistresses receive complete control over the life of their slave(s), and all responsibilities that come with it. They go a step further than dominants in the sense that their power exchange is present 24/7 and in all aspects of their life (except for negotiated exceptions such as during their office jobs). Their primary focus is to create a stable and safe environment for their slave(s), to allow optimal servitude.

Masters/Mistresses typically pair up with slaves.

I had to think about this for a little bit as we are not in a Master/slave relationship. Yet on the other side of that we do live a D/s lifestyle 24/7. Granted we do not engage in anything off the wall in front of the kids but the underlying tendencies are still there.

Primal (Predator) (87%)

Primals are mainly focused on their natural instincts and they enjoy letting their inner animal out during sex. The key part for primals play is that the participants show their raw, emotional sexual feelings during play. All of the labels, roles, and protocols go out the window, and the prey can become a snarling, growing, clawing animal hell-bent on getting away from its predator (you).

Predators typically pair up with preys.

This, oh yes, this! The thrill of the hunt, the scent of the prey’s fear. Love it! Need it! Have to have it! There are times I resort to a animal and I love it, revel in it. Sometimes leading up to letting the Beast out I will engage with a mind fuck, setting the stage if you will. When the Beast comes out to play all beats are off.

Sadist (84%)

Sadists enjoy inflicting (certain types of) pain on their partner(s), usually in a sexual context. Consent hereby is always assumed.

Sadists typically pair up with masochists.

Yeah, this is me..I love my floggers, paddles, nipple clamps, canes, etc. Whether it is a scene at the local Dungeon or in the bedroom, I do love dispensing some pain. My favorite? A dispensing a good OTK spanking is the best hands down!

Non-monogamist (80%)

Non-monogamists don’t see sexuality as necessarily a 1 on 1 thing. Whether this means they will have several relationships or just see other people outside their relationship (or have even more exquisite constructions) depends entirely on the person and the situation, but they all have one thing in common: their sexuality is more than just between them and one fixed partner.

Non-monogamists typically pair up with (several) other non-monogamists.

This surprised me and I am not really sure how I scored so high in this aspect of the test.  Kayla and I are monogamous sexually yet we have talked about finding another couple at some point to scene with. I wonder if this being so high has something to do with my Daddy side as I do have a couple people I have mentored and helped along in the lifestyle. Something to think about.

Voyeur (76%)

Voyeurs enjoy watching the nakedness or sexual activity of other people. Definitions vary with respect to whether those being watched should be aware of this, or not.

Voyeurs typically pair up with exhibitionists.

Yeah, no disagreement here, I do love to watch, I’m an observer. I soak things up like a sponge. Even before Kayla and I were together as a couple I would go to the Dungeon on the weekends and watch, make mental notes on how others played, techniques, etc. 
On the other side of this to Kayla is a exhibitionist so we are two sides of the same coin. 

Experimentalist (75%)

Experimentalists want to have tried it all. An open mind and an insatiable curiosity are their key features, and they will rarely form an opinion before they have gathered first hand experience. They often have plenty of fantasies and will actively pursue to try them out.

Experimentalists typically pair up with other experimentalists.

I do like trying new things, yet I do tend to step cautiously in many cases. When I did my first flogging I didn’t just pick one up and start swinging it. I had been watching people who use them, asked questions and practiced. That being said trying something new is fun but due to TTWD it also heeds caution so no one gets hurt.

Degradation Giver (66%)

Degradation givers like to degrade and humiliate their play partner(s), either by acting upon them in a degrading way, or by or by forcing them to do things they consider degrading. Consent hereby is always assumed.

Degradation givers typically pair up with degradation receivers.

Yes and no.
I do not believe in humiliating someone just for the sake of it. While during a scene I may call her a slut or my whore etc. it is something that is agreed upon between us and it is only during those times I do it.

Exhibitionist (66%)

Exhibitionists enjoy showing their naked body or a sexual activity to other people. Definitions vary with respect to whether those being shown this, should be looking for such encounter or not.

Exhibitionists typically pair up with voyeurs.

Yeah, there was a time I did get my exhibitionist on. Back in the day there was a meme (not sure if that is what you call it) that was very popular called Half Nakid Thursday. I did participate a time or two.

Brat Tamer (56%)

Brat tamers are, in essence, dominants who can handle naughty submissives. They find disobedience a form of playfulness from the submissive’s side, rather than a form of rudeness, and will take no offense to it, but will still teach the sub a lesson (because, of course, that’s why the bratty sub shows such behavior).

Brat Tamers typically pair up with brats.

It takes a special Dom to want a sub with some sass to them and I do love them. For me it keeps things alive and adds an extra spark to everything. It keeps my mind sharp and on my game. D/s isn’t always about being stern and strict (that is for some) this add a lighter element to it.

Primal (Prey) (54%)

Primals are mainly focused on their natural instincts and they enjoy letting their inner animal out during sex. The key part for primals play is that the participants show their raw, emotional sexual feelings during play. All of the labels, roles, and protocols go out the window, and the prey (you) can become a snarling, growing, clawing animal hell-bent on getting away from its predator.

Preys typically pair up with predators.

When my Beast comes out it also awakens a beast in Kayla; she will scratch, bite, and become even somewhat feral. This just serves to push my Beast out further, a wonderful cycle!

Pervert (34%)

Perverts are sexual freethinkers, not afraid to set traditional views and ethics aside to do what their own value system tells them is best. With their ‘anything goes’ mentality they will not let societal rules or expectations get in the way of their heart (or, for that matter, their genitals).

Perverts typically pair up with other perverts.

I never really looked at it this way but this does sum it up quite well.

Masochist (16%)

Masochists enjoy receiving (certain types of) pain from their partner(s), usually in a sexual context. Masochism is independent of pain tolerance: it is purely about the ability to enjoy certain levels of pain.

Masochists typically pair up with sadists.

I’m not really into receiving pain but see my comment on Primal (Prey) above. The only time I like some pain mixed in.

Girl/Boy (13%)

Littles (girls/boys) are submissive spirits that mix childlike innocence with naughty sexual curiosity. They long for a nurturing loving dominant who plays a guiding, almost parental role in their lives. While they require a softer approach to be dominated than most other submissives, their submission can go a lot deeper and sometimes rival those of slaves.

Girls/boys typically pair up with daddies/mommies.

I am not at all surprised that I have a touch of this. I think most if not all Daddy’s/Mommies have a touch of Girl/Boy in them. Think about it. Yes Caregivers are the ones who set the rules and make sure their littles follow them but don’t you also let down your hair now and again and laugh with them, color with them, watch Disney movies with them? Enough said.

Switch (13%)

Switches like to… well, switch. Always taking a dominant or top position is not for them, neither is always taking a submissive or bottom position. Some prefer to switch with the same partner or partners, others have a dominant play partner and a submissive play partner, but in either case they don’t fit on one end point of the spectrum.

Switches typically pair up with other switches.

While I have given this a passing thought it is not something I am interested in doing. A submissive is not who I am. Actually when I first found out about the Lifestyle I thought I was submissive and for a period of time I had a Mistress (Something not many know about me) . What I learned is that I am not submissive and being on the other side of the table has made me a better Dom.

Vanilla (4%)

Vanilla people have a more traditional view on relationships and sexuality. They’re not in need of kink at all, instead they settle for the standard sexuality and relationship model that our society presents them.

Vanillas typically pair up with other vanillas.

The remnants of an old life hanging on? There are times I just want to make love, cuddle and enjoy being.

All-Rounder (0%)

All-rounders have no specific preferences to either category. It doesn’t matter who’s in charge and who inflicts what on who, they all like (or dislike) it equally much. They have no other suitable category here.

All-rounders typically pair up with other all-rounders.

Bondage Receiver (0%)

Bondage receivers likes to be tied up and restrained, using rope and/or other attributes (chains, cuffs, speaders…). Whether for sexual enhancement, for art or just for fun, they enjoy being totally at the mercy of their partner(s).

Bondage receivers typically pair up with bondage givers.

Brat (0%)

Brats are, in essence, naughty submissives. They find disobedience a form of playfulness rather than a form of rudeness, and require a compatible dominant who will not only teach them a lesson, but also accept that any number of lessons might still not necessarily change this behavior.

Brats typically pair up with brat tamers.

Degradation Receiver (0%)

Degradation receiver like to be degraded and humiliated by their play partner(s), either by being acted upon in a degrading way, or by being forced do things they consider degrading.

Degradation receivers typically pair up with degradation givers.

Slave (0%)

Slaves completely hand over the control and responsibilities over their life to their master/mistress. They go a step further than submissives in the sense that their power exchange is present 24/7 and in all aspects of their life (except for negotiated exceptions such as during their office jobs). Serving their master/mistress is their primary focus in life and they rarely have limits for them.

Slaves typically pair up with masters/mistresses.

Submissive (0%)

Submissives like to follow. Some like to give the control away to their partner(s), some like to have it forcibly taken from them. Some are submissive only in the bedroom, others are submissive throughout their daily life as well (usually with limitations). Unlike the bottom roles (receiving pain/bondage/degradation), being submissive is more about who decides what happens (and takes the responsibility that comes with it) than about the contents of what happens.

Submissives typically pair up with dominants.