TDP #31 “You do not have to do The Thing. You don’t. Someone can want it, desire it, even expect it in their relationships. But there is choice. And just as they have the choice to expect, you have the choice to deny. They may want it, desire it, expect it. But they cannot demand… Read More »
Water Cane Bunny, sounds pretty kinky doesn’t it; like it could have something to do with furry play and a bamboo cane that was soaked in water to make it extra stingy. That would really hurt I imagine, a bamboo came soaked in water might make it really whippy and hurt like hell. Then on… Read More »
Safe, Sane, and Consensual The cornerstone of what this lifestyle is built upon. The foundation of D/s and BDSM Everyone has heard about it happening, everyone hopes to never encounter it; but it does happen and when it does it isn’t pretty. This is my story. It started out as a normal Saturday morning, we… Read More »
One thing that I see as very important in our relationship is communication. Not just in regards to our BDSM and D/s aspect of our relationship but all of it as a whole. Kayla and I are on the same page about many things, so many things at times it can be scary. Her and… Read More »
So many look at a Dominant and think they are the most confident people in the world, that they were born knowing just what to do, how to do it, and when to do.it. While Dom’s do exhibit dominant traits being strong and being able to express that for some can be two different things.… Read More »
Just for the record I want everyone who reads my blog to know that W/we (myself and little flower) do not use our blog to air things between use. By the time something is posted on our respective blogs we have talked things through and they have been resolved, punishment received if needed and we… Read More »
That’s right, I said earning submission. Like driving having someone give you their submission is not a right, it is something earned and worked for. After the Munch there is a meeting back at the local club, it is actually done in two parts. The first both Dom’s and subs together and the topic is… Read More »
I read this on a blog I follow yesterday Naked and a follow up post to it Not Again. On the follow up it was told from the males point of view and the writer asked if she told it accurately. I wanted to responded in the comments but felt that what I had to… Read More »
Communication is such an intricate part of the lifestyle. No one is a mind reader, no one knows what the other is thinking unless there are words spoken. I am going to talk about communication before, during, and after a scene or session. Prior to My little flowers arrival for her visit W/we talked about… Read More »